By Julia Matias
Elementary school sex education classes failed to teach students that the amount of a man’s ejaculation is not proportional to the amount of fun. Or that the perineum, the area between the anus and scrotum, is one of the most sensitive spots in a male body thus its nickname, “the million dollar spot.”
University students, however, learned those facts at the pleasure workshop on Oct. 10 in addition to how to find the G-spot and the importance of giving pleasure. The workshop was part of an all day event to raise sexual awareness.
Although all the events prior to the workshop dealt with teaching students how to protect themselves against sexual assaults and STDs, “Here she comes again,” hosted by Womyn of Action (WOA), was a surprising yet revealing reminder that sexual experiences can and should be enjoyable for everybody.
“Making healthy sexual decisions is all about having the knowledge and the confidence to make those decisions,” Dallas, the sex educator from Toys in Babeland, said after the event. “Bringing sexuality out into the open, learning and talking about it is what helps us. We’re not alone.”
Babeland is a women-friendly sex shop that was opened solely to encourage women to “explore their sexuality,” according to their Web site.
“The amazing thing about Dallas and Babeland in general is that it’s a very comfortable atmosphere,” Cheryl Curry, a member of WOA, said. “There’s no judgment. There’s just acceptance and open-mindedness.”
Dallas began the workshop by telling the more than 200 students present that “everybody is different” and that “safer sex is sexy.” She stressed the importance of communication, which she says is the number one way to stay safe and have fun, in any sexual relationship.
“It’s a give and take relationship,” Dallas said. According to her, it is better to talk about what works and what does not work beforehand instead of finding out in the middle of a sexual experience that “you’re just not into it.”
“I agree with Dallas,” Elyse Emmerling, a sophomore drama major, said. “In order for an intimate and sexual relationship to work, we need communication.”
Dallas advised students to have in-bedroom and out-of-the-bedroom communication, as well as knowledge of the male and female anatomy.
“Women don’t know they have three holes,” Dallas said. “[For guys], there are lots of little things that need explaining, but [we should know] that we all came from the same place. We are a lot alike than we thought.”
Dallas proceeded to introduce the ways to pleasure a partner through masturbation, sexual toys and stimulation. She explained how toys such as bullet vibrators and the ever popular rabbit work.
There is no best toy, Dallas commented, since everybody is different, there are many different ways people can be stimulated.
The workshop was followed by a question and answer session where students wrote down questions for Dallas to read.
“The [female body] is more complex than what people think it is,” Kenny Perez, a junior Spanish and Latin American and Caribbean studies dual major, said. “Some people think it’s just penetration and that’s it, but there’s so much more to it.”
Curry, along with WOA, said that she was excited to end the day with the celebration of sexual experiences.
“We’re so busy learning how to do a hammer punch [in a self-defense class],” Curry said.
“People need to know that sex is okay and good and acceptable and normal.”
