By Erica Erotica

“Let me feel you upside down, slide in, slide out, slide over here. Climb into my mouth now, child,” Jason Mraz sings in “Butterfly,” a sexually-charged song that focuses on a woman’s vagina, which he refers to as a “butterfly.” Yes, Jason Mraz has a song about eating out, cleverly written so you really have to stop and listen to the lyrics.

The song is beside the point. The point is that going down on a woman is so underrated. Technically speaking, it’s the equivalent to going down on a guy; it just has different head motions. Yet some people feel repulsed by it, like they’re being forced to eat from some swamp.

“Look, no offense to you, but it smells down there,” a guy said (not that I would take offense to begin with since it’s true sometimes). “A vagina is not like a penis. It’s just unexpected.”

At least people can expect when “a guy is going to come” so you know to get ready, another guy said. “With girls, juices just come no matter what. And because you’re using your tongue, you can taste it faster than if a person swallows.”

So a vagina has deeper crevices, an undeniable smell and at times, tastes that are hard to brush off. I still couldn’t see why going down on a guy was thought to be better than going down on a girl. Luckily, the majority of people I spoke with had enough positive experiences to share.

“What people don’t realize is that you can be incredibly creative when you eat out,” a woman said. Sometimes people focus on trying to finish that they miss out on the whole experience. Use your imagination and creativity, she suggested, because a tongue can do “so much more than just up and down.”

“Oh, definitely,” another friend agreed. “Don’t use your tongue to just go to the sex. Use it to tease.” Tongues are flexible; learn to know all the directions it can go.

It seemed that most of the women were concerned that their partners were so fixed on “getting it right” that they forget to take breathers. It’s not supposed to be frustrating, a girl friend added. It’s supposed to be fun and enjoyable for both parties.

They also commented that their partners worry too much about the technique (a surprising comment since I always though this was important…I guess I was mistaken). The ladies suggested sticking to “a rhythm that both you and your partner are responding well to.” Throw in some surprises every now and then, and you can make sure to expect an orgasm seconds later.

“Most importantly, listen to us,” a friend said. “We’re not telling you that you’re doing it wrong. We just want to let you know how we like it done. It makes a world of difference.”

Some guys I spoke to admitted that they like eating out. They commented that it is “only fair” for the woman. If your partner is “giving you head, then why can’t you do the same for her?” It’s a give-and-take relationship.

“I really don’t understand why some guys make such a big fuss about it,” another said. “Like seriously, it’s not that bad. Besides, isn’t it easier to have sex afterwards if the girl is already turned on?”

A self-proclaimed connoisseur of eating out said that it was all about the type of person you are. You have to be a very giving person. “Some people are selfish in bed,” he continued. “They can’t get enjoyment from seeing other people getting enjoyment.”