By Holly Hox Forget Me Knots
Recently, while out for a friend’s birthday, the birthday boy and his friend were prematurely kicked out of the bar-and the rest of the party followed suit.
As we’re all standing outside the club, wondering what to do next, I picked up on the details.
Our friend was dancing with a girl, when the girl’s boyfriend came back and threw a punch at him. Defending himself, he threw a punch back, and then the rest is history.
The question is, who’s fault is it? Is it the girl’s, because she didn’t have the sense to tell my friend, “No, thank you,” to his dance, or was it my friend, because he shouldn’t be dancing with strange girls? Or is it the boyfriend of the girl?
“I was just trying to have a good time,” said my friend Mike, 22, when asked about his bar mishap. “That guy got bent out of shape, but it was his girl he needed to check. Because she was the one who was looking for someone to dance with once he left.”
Being “the other guy/girl” is a title that holds a lot of baggage. If you think about time when you’ve heard a person being called, “the homewrecker,” you know the kind of reaction the name ensues.
“I think that too much of the blame gets put on the person who doesn’t deserve it,” said Laura, 20. “It’s not always just one person’s fault.”
Not that having a dance with a stranger should be considered cheating, but to some types, it could be a mild form.
“If my girl started dancing with some dude while I was there, I’d be pissed at her!” said Jason, 21. “That’s not cool.”
“It would be different if I wasn’t there,” said Jay, 19. “Because if I’m standing right in front of her, and she turns away from me and towards him; that sucks and I’ll get jealous. I might trust her, but seeing it with your own eyes puts a different spin on the whole thing.”
In my opinion, I think that the girl is in the wrong. If your guy is in the club with you and is nearby, you should definitely not dance with any other strangers. To me, that sounds like a huge slap in the face for the boyfriend. Plus, we all know how unfamiliar, drunk guys are-you give an inch and they start to want a mile.
So the next time you’re out, and your boyfriend or girlfriend is with you, show them you respect them by wanting to dance with them and only them. And if you find yourself swatting off lonely, needy singles-turn the cheek because you’re taken for the night.
And for those lonely, needy singles out there: remember that you’re taking chances with the strangers with whom you decide to dance.