To the Editor:

When trying to answer the life long mystery as to why SOME guys are “jerks,” as in The Chronicle’s March 10, 2005 feature “Sex in the Suburbs, Is He or Isn’t He? Why Girls Fall for the jerks,” do we ever really come up with a good reason that doesn’t involve name-calling and finger pointing? The fact is that we all have our reasons as to why we play the fool when it comes to relationships. There are indeed good guys out there. Do I dare say that sometimes we are so sucked up into television fantasies of meeting Mr. Right that it gives us a false sense of what a good wholesome relationship should be? Sure we marvel at romance, but ladies it’s a two way street. And this whole notion about changing a man? It seems a little deceitful. Why on earth would we want to change a man? If anything we should add to and compliment him. Trying to change someone could be a breeding ground for resentful feelings later on down the road. When we meet someone, we should like him or even fall in love for who they are. Change should come from his heart not from some girl’s need to make someone over to fit into her “perfect” life and so she can walk around with a trophy for being a snake.

Sincerely,

Jacqueline CordawayJunior HPFS/Psychology Major