By Erica Erotica

“I’m gonna piss on your face,” may have been a funny line from Scary Movie 2, but it may actually scare off a partner if used in real life. We don’t usually pay attention to what we say or the noises we make during sex, but depending on what it is, it could actually change the mood.

Certain noises are obviously difficult to avoid, unless you duct tape your mouth. Especially when we’re about to orgasm, it’s pretty hard to hold things in (no pun intended). “Once you get to the point, you can’t help it,” a male friend said. “It’s like a growl.”

“Moaning will do it,” another said. “The more of it the better because it’s such a turn on. I love hearing them get even more excited.”

But most guys I talked to said that they are generally quiet because they are “too busy” concentrating on what they’re doing. “I don’t even make noises during roller coasters,” one guy said. “I’m just quiet.”

Many of them don’t think talking or making a lot of sounds actually works. Someone compared it to listening to music. You want to hear “your jam,” but if you start singing along, it ruins “the whole groove.” In other words, it can be distracting.

Dirty talk from their partner is almost necessary though, they said. It’s weird if the other person doesn’t say anything. It makes them feel like they’re either doing something wrong or just not satisfying them.

The ladies, of course, said it’s the same feeling on the other side. Certain words or even noises “let’s you know that they’re into it.” It makes their partner seem more into the sex, and not just lying there like an empty sack.

“Any kind of talk is good,” a girl friend said. “Mostly, I like to hear how good it feels or how hot I am. Tell me what you want to do to me.”

Others agreed that commands are generally good. Many want to hear “harder,” “faster,” “slower,” or even “switch” just as long as it doesn’t go overboard. If the other person is sensitive about how they say certain things, a friend said, it won’t sound like she is being reprimanded for not having sex correctly.

Another huge turn on is “really graphic” talk. “Be as detailed as you can be in terms of what we’re going to do,” someone said. “Just don’t start whole conversations or say anything stupid.”

According to Cosmopolitan Magazine, you can’t sound like “you’re in a low-budget porn flick.” People don’t want to feel like you’re imagining some porn movie or even feel degraded by certain phrases (don’t call a girl a bitch).

Talk about the act as it happens, or how it feels, and see how the person responds. Avoid ridiculous comments like “I want to piss on your face” unless you’re positive about what your partner likes. If your partner stops grinding you with a confused look on her face, obviously you’ve gone too far.

“And definitely don’t call me by your ex’s name,” a female friend said. She specified that vaginas should be called by their proper name, and nothing else.

Regardless of whether you like it extremely dirty or moderately civilized, be confident about it, a guy stated. “Do it all the way or don’t do it at all.”