Getting involved in clubs and activities is an important part of college, and can be hard to do when you’re shy and introverted. It can seem awkward to go to a meeting where you don’t know anyone – especially when it seems like everyone there is already good friends with each other.
Coming from someone who rehearses what they’re going to say to the waiter when they go out to eat, I know exactly how you feel. Talking to people you’ve never met before can be super nerve-wracking, but don’t fret, I have some tips that can help you break out of your shell a little bit.
First, I know that as an introvert it can be hard to get yourself to club meetings in the first place. It took me until my junior year to really start getting involved on campus because I was so afraid of involving myself with a group of people I didn’t know. Honestly, you just have to force yourself to get out there. Start walking, or if you’re a commuter start driving, and don’t stop until you’re through the door. The initial participation is the hardest but once you make a commitment to a club, you’ll find it’s much easier to keep returning.
Second, forget the idea that it will be awkward trying to make friends with people. Everyone in the club is there for the same reason: to get involved and to have fun. I can guarantee that no one will think you’re awkward for being the new member trying to get to know to everyone. If anything, they’ll welcome you with open arms.
Third, join something with your friends. It’s much easier to get involved in things when you’re with someone you know and trust. If you don’t have a big circle of friends, just start talking to people. Make little comments here and there to break that initial barrier and then before you know it you’ll have a new friend.
Trust me, I know socializing can be hard if it doesn’t come second nature to you. My best advice for you is to just get out there with a wide smile and a friendly attitude. No matter what happens, everything will fall into place.
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